Really enjoyed talking to Kristine about the University Centers graphic internship. Must get better. Must do more. I want this more than anything.
Day161: Careers advice to my younger self. #sweetspot #career
- Him:I know right now, everything seems so unfair. You need to study, all to get compared with other people. Your future is dependent mostly on whether you go to this school, major in this thing, receive this much money, or get this job. I know. I was there, I was you. Studying my ass off for an easier life. You're told that everything right now is the most important, that you need to get As, go to a great college, have an amazing job, generate immense revenue, therefore become happy. But, there's just on thing that I failed to understand. And let me tell you, there are barely any things that I do not understand. Yet, I have no idea why I'm not happy. From a young age, you're told to take these steps and if you succeed, you'll reach happiness. It's not true. I've done every step every mother would tell her child to do, to become, but here I am, unhappy. After many years of trying to find where I went wrong, I realized that I had been looking in the completely wrong place.
- Me:Then where do you look?
- Him:At your friends. Your relationships. Your family. Your coworkers, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your social life. Many of the richest men in the world aren't happy, why? Because they spent all their lives trying to achieve happiness in the wrong place. You have a ton of money, great. But in the end, we're all sitting in our rocking chairs, and nobody cares who had the most money or who went to the best college. It's about who had the most fun. Who had the most people to look after them, who had the most to look after. The happiest are the ones that have people to call in times of trouble, the ones that had the time to spend with their family and feel all that love. That's what people lack! Love. When you're on your deathbed, everything doesn't matter anymore you see. You'd want people that love you to be around you, to be comforting you, to tell you about all the great things you did for people. You don't want to be alone, with what? A degree? Cash that will never be used? Nobody ever says "wow, I went to a great college and therefore I'm satisfied" in the end. Only the lucky ones get to say "wow, I was surrounded by love my whole life. My time on this earth was beautiful."
- Him:But you know, I'm not telling you not to get into a great college or not to do any of the things society tells you to. Go for it, it pays off! It doesn't give you happiness but it takes a lot of stress off your shoulders. All I'm saying is don't make it your everything. If you don't get in somewhere good, don't stress about it. As long as you're okay with the people around you, you're going to be fine. I'm sure of it. Priorities change in the end. We're only people.
- He think's just like my father. I'm glad I was raised with this kind of mentality.
The thought of all these upcoming going away parties is making me rather sad.
After being with my significant other for a few years, I’d like to think that we’re still together not solely because we’re comfortable and familiar with each other but because we’re also still in love.
1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.
3. Minimize your passivity.
4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.
17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
18. Stop hating yourself.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open. (via lorainevictoria)
In all honesty, I’m both jealous and proud that the guy I like to call my best friend, Jonathan Wong, was accepted into two of the most prestigious universities in California: Berkeley and Los Angeles. I wish I could be in his position, but honestly, he deserves it. He’s a great guy with a big heart, and I’m sure that wherever he goes and whichever path he chooses, he’ll achieve amazing things. It’s crazy how emotional I get around this guy—just tonight, we congratulated each other for the numerous awards we both received and hugged each other goodbye. It’s crazy to think that there’s only a few more days left ‘til seniors’ last day and graduation.
Not ready to say goodbye. Lingering in this “this-isn’t-really-happening-is-it?” kind of feeling.
1. Fine Arts
(Ed: Your primary tumblrs majored in two of these and now work in the field of a third.)
well there goes my entire future
w e l l t h e n
Not sure what’s holding me back from submitting my SIR. I’m pretty sure I want to attend UCSD (because I’m not sure where else I’d go), but I need further persuading.
I wish we met people in their true, raw forms. No masks, no sugar-coated greetings. But who are we truly? Are we just a mask under a mask? According to Buddhism, the masks we present ourselves as do not exist and the you that you think you are does not exist (or something like that). So.. who are we? I don’t know.
Who am I? Where am I going? What am I doing? This trip is breaking me down—it should’ve done the opposite. Funny how it all started with simply talking about the irony of wanting to stay in the comfort of our homes when we’ve been dying to get out of Elk Grove for years. Everyone’s splitting off. We may never talk again.
Why is it so hard for me to get along with people? Am I too shy? Too judgmental? Too awkward? I don’t know. I think I don’t like people who get along easily with people. Maybe because they please people too easily. Something’s wrong in that—being able to please everyone. I think I like seeing the true, raw flaws of people. It makes them human. But I don’t like when people’s flaws are so obviously irksome. Does that even make sense? That’s probably my flaw. Hot-headed, temperamental. Maybe that’s why I don’t get along with people.
I don’t know. All in all, I’m tired. Tired of the same shitty, fake people at school and around town. Tired of rejection. Tired of society. Tired of the questions. We were so excited about college, but now that it’s knocking at our door, I’m just not so sure anymore. I just want to relax for once.
Everything’s hitting me so suddenly, one after the other. What am I going to do for the next four years of my life?